Today

My friend passed away today. She was 86 and had Alzheimer's/Lewy Barrs disease. "The mom" was the mother of my friend that lives around the corner from me. E and I go to dance class together and she worked with my husband until her parents moved here. Her father passed away shortly after moving here and E took over care of "the mom" which meant leaving her job and being a full time watcher. The mom was a feisty woman who only knew me as the girl who would "walk from Connecticut" to come visit. Over the last year plus I would go down to visit a couple of times a week, plus dinner out with E and her mom. E would tell me, "my mom just loves you, you live in her world". When her mom spent a day thinking she was a vampire/werewolf and was afraid to go anywhere because she might "hurt someone" I told E to get a cross and garlic give them to her mom and tell her it would "protect her" from the change so E could at least get to the grocery. When she thought she had to catch a plane to fly home I told her, "the flight had been cancelled and she would be leaving when the weather cleared". She had kept E up most of the week getting up and getting dressed to leave for the airport. I wasn't being ugly or mean I was living in her world and it helped E just a little bit. How many times can you answer the same question every day repeatedly? E was wonderful with her mom. Her quality of life was awesome. She was never left out because she was "feeble minded". She wasn't, she had just lost a day, every day. The mom and I discussed my life and hers every time we saw each other. That was OK, it was her world and she enjoyed what she could remember. She loved margaritas. Oh, she sure did! I would visit and we would have a toddie and discuss my day. I was there last Wednesday, we had margaritas and we visited. "The mom" even got after me because I was "making them too slow and she was thirsty". I really truly grew to love this woman who never remembered me. I told E several times "I wish I had known your mom when she had her memories". E would tell me, she would have loved you but, my dad would have really loved you. I couldn't see that but, it made me feel good none the less. E has been through what no one should go through. Can you imagine your mom not knowing you? Or waking up 8-10 times a night for weeks on end because she has to use the bathroom and her arthritis is so bad she can't get out of bed? How about taking the knobs off your stove and putting kiddie locks, guards on everything in your house because your mom may burn the house down or leave in the middle of the night. E was lucky in a way, her moms arthritis didn't get bad until the last few weeks, she was also having more moments of clarity over several days. The mom hadn't gotten to the point that we all dreaded...assisted living or a nursing home. It was out there waiting to pop its ugly head out but for E's sanity it hadn't gotten that far.

The mom passed away today. She got a bowel obstruction and within 12 hours she passed away from the infection. She had a living will and when surgery was ruled out because of the infection and her other organs were now reacting to the infection it was decided to let her pass as peacefully and painlessly as possible. The way she wanted. When they removed her last IV drip she stopped breathing, her heart kept beating. E left with her girls and her husband stayed till she was pronounced. I stayed with him. E needed to be with her girls and they needed to be together. K (her husband) and I went back to her room. Her heart was still beating 70 beats right on the screen. I leaned over and kissed her forehead and said "mom, its me crazy grammice, its OK to go to the light, your husband, sister and son are waiting, its' beautiful and you will be so happy, be safe, I love you and thank you for so much". I gave her a hug and her heart stopped. Just like that.

I'm sad for the loss of my friend, I'm sad because her daughter E has watched her brother and her parents pass away and she has "lost her family", I'm sad because in her own way the mom thought I was neat and she could do and say whatever crossed her mind and I accepted her and she taught me too. I'm sad because I lost a friend.

The PLAN .....

Bi-polar has decided to seek employment elsewhere. She went to a job interview.

THE PLAN
She went to the owner & wife several months ago after their son the VP told her to lose the attitude or she would be gone and told them she was "sick of me and they needed to do something". Evidently, they were so "impressed" they never said a word to me and I still have my job.

She has decided that since they didn't do anything, she will have to resort to more severe tactics. She has known them for about 15 years if she "threatens" them with her leaving they will cave because she (in her own mind) is indespensible to the company, they will fire me and she will get what she wants.


I did the happy dance ALL DAY! Basically, if she does get another job I won't have to deal with or if they fire me its unemployment and I won't have to deal with her!!!!
This ruse usually doesn't work, but hey everyone send Good MOJO my way. I like my job and would like to be the "new" office manager. LOL

PS Has anyone else notice that some of the stuff on the "tool bar" aren't working or is it just me?

Took Sunshines Test the results are in....

Greed:	Medium
Gluttony:	Low
Wrath:	Medium
Sloth:	Medium
Envy:	Very Low
Lust:	Very Low
Pride:	Low

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I am indeedy

One house back ......

How do you describe your neighbors that you don't know? For example we have the "professors", the "blind people", the "gardeners", the "retirees", etc. you get my drift. Anyway, last Saturday an ambulance and a fire truck came down our street lites, sirens the whole works, about a mile past our house they stopped. On Sunday the husband and I are going to breakfast and as we drive past the house I say "thats where the ambulance and fire truck were I wonder what happened"?

He says: Which house?

Me: One house back from the "Stop" house. (the people in the "stop" house live at the corner with the stop sign and put up crazy signs during the Holidays etc. reminding people to STOP.)

Husband: The "Tin roof" house?

Me: No, other side of "tin roof" house! I told you, one house back from "stop" house.

Husband: Thats two houses, The "stop" house is 1, "tin roof" 2 then "ambulance" house, which is actually the 3rd house from the corner.

Me: No its not. You are standing in the yard of the "stop" house, you look back, there is 1 whole house THEN the ambulance house. One house back, which is what I said!

Husband: This is a waste of time, your wrong, what kind of math are you using? 1, 2, 3how much easier can it be? No wonder you have trouble giving directions.

Me: Evidently not banker-math, no wonder people bitch about being over charged. Oh,and the only reason I have problems with directions is because I never can remember which way N,S,E,W is, NOT because I don't know where I'm going. PLUS, when I give people directions to our house I tell them we are "One house back" from the corner, funny how they manage to find our house.
Then I said: I'm putting this in a post and we will find out if "one house back" is correct.

We really don't fight about anything anymore, but he says I exasperate him. So you tell me, is it 3 houses or 1 house back? See diagram below


XX XX XX
"Stop" house "Tin roof" house "Ambulance" House
Sits on corner

Valentines day dinner and birthday cake hell(p)

G-son is turning 5 and after 3 g-kids I had managed to stay out of Chucky Cheese and didn't have to watch Barney. I felt very blessed. THEN daughters BFF took all my g-kids to Chucky Cheese on a teacher planning day. Damn her! When daughter asked him where he wanted his party it took him approximately one second to spew the words "CHUCKY CHEESE".
Due to busy weekends the party will be held on Valentines Day at Chucky Cheese.

Call to husband: "Hey your taking me to dinner on Valentines day."
Husband: "Oh, I am and where am I taking you"?
Me: With uncontrolled glee I yell "CHUCKY CHEESE"!
Husband: "What"?
Me: "You heard me"
The rest of the dialogue consisted of me explaining why.

I am also the official Ice cream birthday cake maker for all the g-kids birthdays. I enjoy it and its relatively easy thanks to Betty Crocker bake n fill pans. I've managed to decorate according to each childs wishes. But, g-son has thrown me for a small loop. Not only are we "partying" at Chucky Cheese, he wants a chocolate castle cake with cookies and cream ice cream in it, he also wants it sitting on a moat. He wants dragons and alligators and army guys and race cars on his cake. This is where you guys come in. Yeah, I'm gonna spread the love.

I bought a castle cake pan, here is my plan:
1)
Make choc. cake, make white sheet cake to hold castle and moat. I plan to firm freeze both cakes. One, to make the castle easier to decorate as it has many windows/doors and a rock wall. By making chocolate I think it will be easier to pipe around the window and door details with white icing and then use choc. icing to detail rocks. I will not put icing on the cake other than details. Is that a good thing?

2)
The moat cake, this is where I'm really boogered. After firm freezing I'm going to slice in 1/2 long ways and slice ice cream to lay between the layers. Then put back in freezer? Or should I continue to decorate (other than ornamentals)?

I thought I would buy white icing, fluff in mixer to add more air and thin down, spread on moat cake. Should I attempt to try and color the frosting with food coloring to make the "water" kinda brackish? Or should I use brown and green "dust" like stuff and feather over it like air brushing to get the "water" look?

Am I over thinking this? Am I crazy as shit trying to do this? He is very excited and has called to make sure I'm "making" his cake and each time he adds something to the mix. Are there short cuts I'm not aware of other than Publix Bakery?

I mean not only are we having Valentines day dinner at Chucky Cheese, which the husband gleefully tells everyone, BUT a castle cake on a moat, thats no Betty Crocker bake n fill I can tell you!

Please hear my call and send advice, ideas, prayers, money.....(just thought I'd throw in money)

Dammit, Dammit, Double Dammit

Made a bet with Husband, I get Sex when he wants if Giants win Super Bowl, Sex whenever I want if Patriots win Superbowl. The way I figure it either way I win, (i'm always asking for sex) right?

2 mins. down Patriots are just stuffing the Giants Q-back. HA! HA! I've won nahhhh nahhh. Laying in bed (only because i'm a 9er & watched end of game)....HA!HA! Gloat gloat "do you want to pay up now or later"?
All I get is "Games not over".
Me: "Miswell be what can you do in 1:40. NOTHING, thats why they haven't won a Superbowl since '92".
Husband: Just raises eyebrow
Me: "Think I'll just doze off, you can wake me to pay up"
Husband: Not one word
Giants have the ball, they're running, they're throwing.....WHAT! Son of a BITCH!!!! Dammit, Dammit! Wellllll SHIT!
Husband: "Goodnight honey"
Me: "Wait what about our bet,(fluttery eyes) want me to pay up"?
Husband: Looks over smiles......"Nope", I'm tired, I really don't want to take advantage of a loser."

Dammit!!!